Sorry we don’t accept those coupons. 

It’s come to my attention lately that there are fewer and fewer genuinely nice people in this world. This really upsets me because I pride myself on doing nice things for people whether I believe they deserve it or not, we all deserve to be treated like people. 

Recently I had an acquaintance come to me in disbelief that no one would pick her up when she requested this from 6 different friends. She was upset because she’s done some “nice things” for these individuals and thought they needed to return the favor, right then and there at her beck and call. 

I was in such shock at this I was literally speechless. I don’t buy a friend a drink so I can cash in on it later, I do it to be nice. I don’t expect anything in return. I don’t do things that I don’t want to do, so if I do something nice it’s because I genuinely want to, isn’t that was being nice is? 

This acquaintance and I were once good friends but as you can imagine, I’ve run out of coupons ha! 

It’s crazy how people can be so close to you and yet so far away. Maybe we were meant to meet so I could teach her something, and learn something myself. 

Lesson of the day: You don’t do nice things for people and then try to redeem the gesture at a time of your choosing. 

My ‘Lanta, some people’s children. 

Love&Light

Jessica 

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Hear me roar. 

I am a girl, yes. I can be girlie, yes. I love football, beer, fixing cars, motocross, and I golf almost every weekend. Should this make me any less of a woman? No. 

My friends are dudes, girls don’t generally like me. I am a carpenter currently by trade, I like to fix things. I like to have an understanding of how things work. I don’t get my nails done, I don’t have fake hair or fake boobs, I’m just a girl. A girl who loves to travel, meet people, hear their stories, spread positive vibes and be “out there.” Don’t call me on Super Bowl Sunday because it’s the Super Bowl, clearly I’m busy. 

I don’t go to church, and I don’t always listen to my parents. Quite frankly, they think I’m crazy. I’ve never been one to “go with the status quo.” I am who I am and nothing will change that. 

I feel bad for women who live their lives with a side of caution, scared of being who they truly are because they’re afraid they won’t be liked. Yes I have my challenges when I have to explain to a boyfriend that my friends are 99% male but it’s a challenge I accept. This is my life and those who are not willing to be understanding of it, have no place in it. 

A long time ago I decided to stop being a people pleaser and start living my life the way I see it fit. This brings me great joy and I love every moment of it. 

Just remember. A wise man once said “those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter, don’t mind.” 

Words to live by. Be who you are and say what you feel. Life is a journey, not a destination. We should ALL grasp this concept because in the end, we all have the same destination, you’ll never make it out alive. We’re all living, but are we? 
Love&Light, 

Jessica 

What exactly is a “Basic Bish” 

  
Above you will note what urbandictionary.com thinks “basic” is and a few examples of how to use the term. There you have it folks… The internet definition of what “Basic Bish” really means. 

Funny enough, Cosmopolitan Magazine also had a piece on “The 41 best things about being a Basic Bish” which I have conveniently included the link for Here. I would suggest reading it, you’ll really get a better idea of what it is, and you may or may not check off a few things on the list you do yourself (I know I did.) 

Peace&Love