Shameynne aka Cheyenne. 

In my travels I’ve seen many places and many different ways of life but nothing quite like my new city of residence. Cheyenne, Wyoming. 

There’s a few things you ought to know before making the choice to move here. 

1. Nothing much happens before noon, which we also call lunch/beer break.

2. If you need to get ahold of someone make sure to call, email will be lost in the cloud forever and ever. 

3. There are requirements to living here; a beer mug (never empty) holsters for your gun and shot glass, and the number for the cowboy shuttle on speed dial. 

4. Fireball. Enough said. 

5.  Knowledge of the “one legged stripper” at the Green Door (which is a bar/strip club) 

6. Uber. It doesn’t exist here and if you mention it they’ll think you’re a hipster talking some foreign lingo. 

7. We refer to Colorado people as  “greenies” they are known for being the loudest when using our park/lakes. 

8. A snow day = a snow drift as high as your front door. 

9. “Regulars” at the bar are not your friend unless you’re paying their tab. They’re anything but “regular”

10. Uniqueness has a whole new meaning, it means you’re fucking weird. 

11. You’ll be lucky to meet a man with all his teeth.

12. Wyoming is a “right to work” state which means you can and will be fired for just being you. Although drunkness seems to be a daily occurrence you may not show up to work intoxicated. 

13. They do not have pizza pops nor do they know what they are (sorry Canada) 

14. If you’re a biker, it better be a Harley. If you ride a bicycle, watch out we don’t all know how to drive. 

15. Pedestrians. Watch out, they don’t know what a walking man sign means and you have no right of way. They will stop for a Pokemon though, even though they are few and far between. 

16. If you’re 18, no kids, and not pregnant… You’re not from here. “I just went camping” is not an excuse for pregnancy. 

17. If you’re reading this blog, you’re not from here… “Blog” is probably a name for a shot that you’ve never tried and never should. 

18. At McDonald’s they will not understand “make it like a Mac.” Which is putting Mac sauce, lettuce and all the fixings of a Big Mac but without the other bun. Don’t try it here, it’ll have ketchup and Mac sauce..nasty. 

19. Frontier days…. Needs its own blog post but it’s similar to the Calgary stampede only 100x smaller, although they will never admit to that. It’s “the biggest outdoor rodeo on earth” if you live here and you better stick to that.

20. Downtown. It has more parking garages than places to go. Open a restaurant down there and you’ll be lucky to last 6 months. Sorry Hooters. Open a skateboard park and you’ll be busy for life, but it’s illegal to ride a skateboard downtown. 

21. Photographers, ensure to take a deposit because your clients will definitely change dates, fail to show up to their session, or not end up paying you at all. Trying to get paid for your services is like waiting outside a bestbuy for the newest Xbox console. 

To be continued…

Love&Light,

Jessica 

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JT dreams too. 

Alright, first things first, I am not referring to Justin Timberlake. This post is about a man who is inspirational through his music and the stories he shares through lyrics. He’s been in the spotlight for years and I can personally say that he is humble, kind, and very friendly.

My father worked for a music company when I was young, I was very fortunate to meet some amazing artists although truthfully I was too young to appreciate the wonderful gift that was bestowed upon me at the time.

Photographs of artists like Shania and Jan Arden posed next to my father are a mere part of the decor in my parents home.

I’ve always had a love for music and I would said it goes as far as being a passion. I learned to play the guitar, I love to sing, I taught myself how to mix music, and there is more than one occasion that I’ve gotten lost in lyrics and seen multiple days go by without notice.

Last night I had the priveledge of seeing one of my all time idols with my father. This man is someone who I grew up listening to and is one of my fathers favorite artists, and mine as well. This man not only sang last night, he told jokes, stories, and I was lucky enough to meet him, exchange stories and even take some selfies.

Who is this man, I’m sure you’re curious. His name is James Taylor and in 1968 when he sang “something in the way she moves” for Paul McCartney and George Harrison he had a dream about being signed by a label. The Beatles record label “Apple Records” signed him and gave him the shot to be the astounding musician he is today.

Prior to being signed, James had a band called “Original Flying Machine” which seemingly crashed and burned before his opportunity at stardom. His parents had grown tired of him lounging around the house all day so he set off and at that time whilst dealing with the pains of missing home he wrote and recorded my all time favorite song “Carolina.”

This just goes to show, no matter how small you feel in this world with a plethora of people and their dreams, yours may come true to. You just have to work for it.

Thank you James Taylor for a wonderful show last with your All Star Band. You left the crowd with memories of a fantastic evening and many laughs. One of my dreams was to meet you, last night we crossed that off the bucket list. Enjoy your Caesar, glad I got to teach you about my favorite beverage.

Love&Light,

Jessica

BE THAT WOMAN – Guest Post 

Throughout my travels I always seem to attract people who have a story to share, unbeknownst to me while surfing through Instagram I came across a profile I just couldn’t ignore. 

I never could have dreamt up the story that I’m about to share from a wonderfully inspiring and influential woman. Sade Travers is the author of this next piece and she is nothing less that truly amazing. I’m very proud to say that she more than willingly wrote a piece to contribute to The Basic Bish and it is my pleasure to share this with you. 

Thank you Sade, your words are so motivating and captivating. My greatest gratitude goes to you for sharing your story.

Guest post by Sade Travers of “Be That Woman”

“When I was younger I knew I wanted to help people, I wanted to be the person that I needed when I was younger and trying to figure my life out. I had huge dreams and ambitions and I didn’t know how to get to where I wanted to be.

As a fitness trainer I spent a lot of my time talking to women and listening to the things they say about their dreams and about their desires. Also about their aspirations for having the perfect life, the perfect body, and the happiest life. I found I was offering a lot of advice which my clients and friends found very useful- from there it all kind of just evolved.

I had the talent for sharing my advice that women could relate to, because I just “got it”, I understood on a deep level what they were trying to say, and what they needed to here. I am very intuitive in nature so I think that plays in my favour.

I spent years working on myself after that, discovering who I wanted to be and what I was going to do with this desire of helping women. I have read hundreds of books, invested money on self-development programs and grown as a person through my own life experiences.

Last year when I was 26 I was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma, which is a cancer of the lymphatic system. It took me and my entire world by surprise- as you can imagine! Funnily enough it threw me deeper into the depths of self-discovery through the process, which enabled me to see how strong and powerful I really was. I used the power of positive thinking as well as allowing as much love into my life to help me get through what was the toughest time of my life.

I created a blog (www.sade-travers.squarespace.com) to provide support and love to those around the world who were going through the same thing and give them a literal shoulder to lean on. From here my love of writing was formed and I had email after email of people telling me they were moved by what I wrote and even though some of them did not have cancer they found something compelling in my writing- this motivated me even more to share my message.

I came up with Be That Woman near the end of my cancer journey- something that I knew I needed in my life to give me purpose. It was a dream I had, which I actioned on and turned it into a reality!

The message of Be That Woman is all about empowering women to live life boldly and to love boldly- both themselves and others. It’s all about banishing the self-doubt and just going for it!

Creating Be That Woman has given me a chance to express the real me, to share the vulnerable sides of me to allow me to show up in the world more authentically. To have had to trust my decisions and to push myself further into love and life than I ever thought possible. I do not want to die with my message still inside me- that I know to be true.

I have faced challenges while on this journey, most of which have been created by myself. My self-doubt and the lack of faith I have in myself has sometimes left me feeling very vulnerable about sharing the deepest parts of me. But, I always need to remind myself that there is someone out there who NEEDS to hear what I have to say- and that is why I keep going.

I want to be the example that anyone can change the world, that anyone can make a HUGE difference in so many people’s lives- just by being you.”

Love&Light,

Jessica 

Hear me roar. 

I am a girl, yes. I can be girlie, yes. I love football, beer, fixing cars, motocross, and I golf almost every weekend. Should this make me any less of a woman? No. 

My friends are dudes, girls don’t generally like me. I am a carpenter currently by trade, I like to fix things. I like to have an understanding of how things work. I don’t get my nails done, I don’t have fake hair or fake boobs, I’m just a girl. A girl who loves to travel, meet people, hear their stories, spread positive vibes and be “out there.” Don’t call me on Super Bowl Sunday because it’s the Super Bowl, clearly I’m busy. 

I don’t go to church, and I don’t always listen to my parents. Quite frankly, they think I’m crazy. I’ve never been one to “go with the status quo.” I am who I am and nothing will change that. 

I feel bad for women who live their lives with a side of caution, scared of being who they truly are because they’re afraid they won’t be liked. Yes I have my challenges when I have to explain to a boyfriend that my friends are 99% male but it’s a challenge I accept. This is my life and those who are not willing to be understanding of it, have no place in it. 

A long time ago I decided to stop being a people pleaser and start living my life the way I see it fit. This brings me great joy and I love every moment of it. 

Just remember. A wise man once said “those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter, don’t mind.” 

Words to live by. Be who you are and say what you feel. Life is a journey, not a destination. We should ALL grasp this concept because in the end, we all have the same destination, you’ll never make it out alive. We’re all living, but are we? 
Love&Light, 

Jessica 

The Plains Hotel – Cheyenne, Wyoming

I had the pleasure of visiting The Plains Hotel earlier this week. Not only was I treated phenomenally by all the staff, I had the priveledge of meeting the current owner. This historic landmark hotel that was started in 1911 was nothing short of charming, much like the staff. 

While at The Plains, I enjoyed the best country fried steak I’ve had to date and delicious fried mushrooms with their “Boo Sauce” which is a blend of 17 ingredients I would highly recommend. 

Although my intentions originally were to have a bite to eat, chat with the staff, and check out the things I had heard about it being haunted, I ended up meeting some amazing individuals that surely made their mark on me. 

While I was at The Plains, I also met two very amazing individuals who happen to be appraisers from Antiques Roadshow. What an amazing experience! 

If you’re ever in Cheyenne, make sure to stop by The Plains – 1600 Central Ave Cheyenne, WY. 


Thank you to The Plains Hotel for your amazing hospitality and wonderful staff. 

Love&Light,

Jessica 

Heartbeats in the Streets

I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately and I have come to the realization that I was not born destined to take on life in a conventional manner. 

I truly believe my purpose is to spread positivity, help others and make an impact on the quality of life for everyone I get the pleasure of encountering. So I decided to do something about it. 

I created “Heartbeats in the Streets” a few years ago, I would ask people where their heart truly belonged and have them write it on a heart so I could photograph them. The purpose was to show people that your heart doesn’t necessarily belong to a person, it could belong in a place, a period of time, a passion, etc. 

I always wanted to travel and have people do this everywhere but for some reason I couldn’t figure out how to execute the idea. In the last 2 weeks I have travelled down to the United States, I’m currently in Cheyenne,Wyoming. When I got here the wheels slowly started to turn and I began to actualize this plan I feel I was destined to. 

I started to meet people from all walks of life, and they began to talk, so I listened. I was learning about other peoples struggles, successes, and the words that were bestowed upon me from these individuals resonated. 

I have decided to share their stories, much like my amazing guest post authors. I want to be the voice for people that don’t have an outlet or platform they feel comfortable using. I will also being volunteering in the places I visit and spreading positive vibes around the world as I go. 

So my friends, here it is. I’ve committed myself to traveling around the world to share my positive thoughts, help and inspire others, and share stories from some of whom I encounter. I want to do this selflessly which means I’ll be living in my car, staying places in exchange for any work I can assist with, photographing the journey and writing about it daily. 

I would love your support and warm wishes as I proceed to fulfil my promise. I hope y’all are as excited as I am and you will follow me on my journey. 

If you would like to contribute to this journey I have set up a GoFundMe account where every dollar makes a difference. Any donations will be used solely for the purpose of this journey to assist me with things such as gas, food, and care packages which I will be creating for the less fortunate. 

Heartbeats in the Streets donations
If your company would like to advertise on my vehicle as I drive cross country or you would like to contribute in another way or have an inquiry please email me 

Heartbeatsinthestreets@gmail.com 

Thank you all for your love and support,

Jessica

Kindness & Karma 

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. This statement speaks volumes to how I hold such high regard to my actions toward others, as it may seem very basic it’s also very true. 

I do believe karma is very real because I have seen it with my own eyes, both in positive and negative aspects. I believe that being able to assess all situations and people promptly in addition to making the conscious choice to handle them accordingly is an indubitable trait that not everyone has acquired or has the ability to. 

I say this because what you give truly is what you get. It may not be apparent at that exact moment or even apply to that specific situation, however it always comes back to you in one way or another. I firmly stand by my opinion on this matter because it not affects myself as an individual but also the others around me. The simple gesture of asking how someone’s day is going can be life altering to someone and you’d never know. Just as no one will ever be able to comprehend your situation or the internal struggle you may be battling, you won’t be able to understand anyone else’s. Some of us are very good at suppressing our thoughts and feelings, myself included. 

Behind every sweet smile there is a bitter sadness that no one can ever see or feel. 

I have to acknowledge these small gestures I have made over the years, although many times when they’re not reciprocated I will admit I have thought twice about continuing to behave in this manner. It can be disheartening to treat others with kindness only for them to treat you with disrespect or insignificance. I’ll never be able to come to a conclusion as to why some individuals feel as though they are better than others, as though we are all merely servants in their fairytale world of existence. That one is surely beyond me and to be frank, I really couldn’t be bothered to find out. 

My life has had its ups and downs, sometimes I wonder how I manage to deal with some of the crazy things that come my way, however through all the bullshit always comes a positive outcome. At times I’m curious as to what lesson I’m supposed to be grasping or why it was necessary to be given such hardships to learn from, but in the end it all comes together. 

Gratitude must be given for my ability to mask my internal challenges and persevere through life’s daily trials and tribulations. I feel very lucky to have the ability to push my personal issues aside and tackle the day in a positive manner, for that has brought me great lengths in my career thus far. Without that trait I can honestly say I don’t know where I would be but it wouldn’t be ideal whatsoever. 

It’s interesting how someone’s personality and presence alone can attract others and create opportunities. I recently encountered a situation like this, few words were spoken but the outcome was extraordinary. Who would have thought that my mere presence and a small exchange of chit chat could lead to the opportunity of a lifetime. That is exactly what happened. Thank you karma. 

Love&Light,

Jessica 

If you’re a bird…

I believe you can meet someone and just know they’re meant to be in your life. It’s an overwhelming feeling if you’ve never felt it but at the same time it’s remarkable. You just know that person has a place in your story. The kind of person that you love entirely before you even know them. You like all the wonderful qualities they possess, the things they don’t like about themself, the little things that should irritate you but they don’t, their cute idiocincracies make you smile and you can get lost in their words during a conversation. This is the kind of person you would do anything for without thinking twice. When you find a person like this you won’t let them go, no matter how difficult things may get. 

Distance can’t even keep me from you, time cannot keep me from you, any obstacle put in my path will be shattered, just to get to you. I could see you once every few months and still be the happiest girl on earth. Just having you in my life means the world to me and I don’t ever want that to change. You’re the only thing keeping me here and you don’t even know it. You wouldn’t be able to change my mind even if you did. I feel as though a person like this only comes around once in a lifetime and I just can’t help but wait it out to see the outcome. 
I’ve never met someone that has made such an impact on my life as you have.  I’ll never be the same, I can assure you of that. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think of you, wonder how you are, miss you, or need you in my life. You’re that person for me. The person I can’t make life decisions without, the one I can’t seem to let go, the one I always picture in my life. 

I don’t know how to tell you this. I don’t even think there’s a combination of words that could be put together that could even begin to describe the feelings I have for you. 

I don’t know what it is about you, there’s not one specific thing that stands out, it’s just you. 

Thank you. Thank you for everything you do, you put up with more than you should, you keep me grounded, you’re happy for me when I’m happy, you let me cry when I need to and you help me realize why tears aren’t necessary when I overreact, you’re there for me unconditionally, you’re my family and there is no one that could ever take your place. 

Love&Light,

Jessica