Why you so basic?

Have you ventured off away from your parents? 

You’re living on your own on a student on early 20s budget, so you’re probably rooming with your buddies. You think it’s gonna be all glitz and glam, or the bachelor pad sorta deal. 

Right…. Good luck with that. 

Dear roommate:

Have you ever sauntered into the kitchen and wondered where all your dirty dishes went? We have this extraordinary piece of machinery my mom calls a dishwasher, she didn’t name me after it so I’m wondering why it’s so hard to get those nasty plates into this piece of equipment. 

Ever wonder where your lost socks go? You’d never find them because you seem to have an allergy to the trash receptacle. 

I love how you claim the living room when there are other people living in this apartment. I must admit I always wanted to learn the basics of being a maid just in case I couldn’t find any other career. 

I hate to break it to you, but your mom doesn’t live here and I definitely don’t like cleaning up after you. If I wanted to pick up after someone all day I’d have a child. 

My most sarcastic of wishes,

Your roommate. 

Love&Light, 

Jessica 

It’s not a want, it’s a Neid. 

A friend of my from back home in Canada has always really inspired me. I recently got in touch with her to ask her about her clothing line. 

Erikka from neidstudio.com and I have known each other for years and somehow we have always managed to keep in touch but I’ve never truly gotten the opportunity to ask her a whole lot about what inspires her. So I did! 

What designers are you most inspired by? 

Coco Chanel, Karl Lagerfeld, Gianni Versace, and Donatella Versace. Also, I’m inspired daily by the independent designers; those of us that choose fabric over food and can still jump out of bed every morning because their passion is enough to sustain them!

What would be your dream award to win? 

Academy Award for Best Costume Design! An Oscar belongs on my mantle 💕 

If you had to design something specifically for me what would it be? 

Some serious Canadian Couture to show your new neighbours how fabulous you and your Canadian roots are.

Would you ever sell your brand? 
I couldn’t; I am my brand. . It would be awkward to say the least because I design what I feel . I think that’s priceless. 

What would you be opposed to designing? 
I will try anything once. Twice if I like it just to be sure 😉 

What celebrity would you enjoy designing something for?
I once created a dress with Rhianna in mind when I was in design school. It was a flapper style adorned with hardware store nails! Now- Met Gala – Beyoncé, and we’d win best dress of the night , I guarantee it! 

I have always been a fan and supporter of Erikka and Neid and since meeting her I’ve gotten the opportunity to see many of her creations as well as her brand grow amazingly. 

Neidstudio.com is where you can purchase her amazing designs and you can also find her on instagram @neidstudio 

To all the ladies…

Dear women that choose to post photos on social media barely clothed…..

My husband may enjoy your photos, his friends as well. Hell I may even enjoy your photos, but is it really a good self portrayal of yourself?

There’s nothing wrong with being proud of your body, don’t get me wrong. Posting erotic photos of yourself on the internet means you’re sharing your body with the world. You may think your friends list is “private” but those so called “private” photos are only private to those with whom you share them with. If those people decide to save them, send them, repost them, etc…. well that’s up to them. 

I’m happy you’re proud of your body, I’m excited you feel so confident, but these things should be so personal to you that you should only want to share your body with the man whom you’re intimate with. 

Speaking as a woman, I don’t care what my husband looks at because I know they’re only photos. I’m the woman he sleeps beside every night, I’m the woman he married. I know in my heart of hearts that I’m the only one for him and he’s the only one for me. 

So what I want to know is…. who is it you want to see these photos? What action is it that you want them to take? I’ve seen friends post inappropriate photos and all I can do is wonder what your significant other thinks of this. Do you really desire attention THAT much? Are you trying to form a fan club or start a business on backpage? Or… are you really just that desperate? 

I believe in empowerment and embracing other women, I tell women they’re pretty all the time. There’s no need for petty remarks or calling another woman a skank, all I ask is to have self confidence and respect for yourself so you don’t feel like this is necessary. 

If you’re truly trying to show your confidence as a woman with real curves and real flaws, all the power to you. You’re proving women are REAL, we are not all a size 2 and we don’t all have a thigh gap, amen to that! If you’re just trying to show off your collar bones and stick figure legs to tell the world about your Pepsi habit…think twice. My word of advice, you just look desperate and you’ll find yourself attracting the wrong kind of attention. 

Love&Light,

Jessica 

Trimming the tree. 

Recently I’ve had the unfortunate task of deciding who is really relevant in my life. Sometimes in life it’s necessary to remove toxic people and move forward with those who are a positive impact. 

I’ve never really had an issue making friends but I have had trouble decifering who to keep around. I accept this fault of mine and believe it’s because I always try to find the good in people, that I have a hard time letting people go. 

I’ve realized that people aren’t DIY projects that I can work on and help. I need to focus more on myself and less on trying to “fix” friends. 

The person that I had to remove from my life was always causing issues. Whether it was drunken comments or dramatic text messages, this person was always putting the blame on everyone else. This person tried to get between my husband and I and always felt entitled to be around me anytime I left the house. 

I think what bothered me the most was if I did something without this person. They always felt that they should have been invited and would be bitterly upset if they found out I did something with someone else. 

I just don’t have time for negative energy and toxic people, life is too short for daily arguments and over dramatic individuals. 

‘Tis the season, so I’m trimming the tree. 

Love&Light,

Jessica