Jay R Fit Guest Post 

I stumbled across a profile on Instagram that just overwhelmed me with inspiration. The owner of this profile is Jay R McDonald and he is nothing short of motivational. His posts show his journey through fitness and his determination to help others achieve their goals. Although I am no gym junkie and should surely get my buns in there more often, he inspires me to push harder to attain my own dreams. 

That being said, thank you Jay for your contribution to The Basic Bish. I am ever so grateful you took the time out of your busy schedule to write this marvellous piece together. 

Jay R McDonald for The Basic Bish: 

“My goal is to inspire and influence people like you do. You’re such an amazing icon and inspiration to many people.”

Whoa… “Positivity shots” fired! Officer down!
Waking up to that message hit me right in the feel goods.

When Jessica asked me to contribute to this amazing blog, I was humbled and honoured. I don’t consider myself much of a writer BUT since you asked so elegantly, I will see what I can ramble out…
You are probably scrolling on your cell phone or reading this in line at Starbucks, so I am going to try to keep this short and sweet enough that you can make it to the bottom by the time the caramel kisses the foam on the top of your macchiato. 
The first thing that comes to mind when thinking of motivation is, “Thoughts become things”… This is what I want to address today.
So often I hear things (aka bullshit) like:
“I am so fat”

“I want to be pretty with a beautiful body like so and so, but I’m too chunky”

“I have tried everything but I am still so chubby”

“I am so scrawny, I want to be buff like you”

“Look at her body! Why am I such a fat mess?”

These are real statements and real questions from real people.. Now that I got the ball rolling you’re probably thinking “yeah you’re right, I am this or that”
S-T-O-P that thinking RIGHT NOW. If you heard someone calling a stranger those things you would interject and say something wouldn’t you? So WHY do you sit there a shit talk yourself?!


YOUR LEGS ARE NOT TOO BIG (side note ladies.. us guys love some strong powerful legs. Embrace those bad boys poppin in your LuLu’s)

You ARE Stacy with the contagious laugh and BEAUTIFUL smile
You ARE Chris with the strikingly handsome features and heart of gold

You ARE YOU and that is why we love YOU.

You are admired from afar and loved up close for the person you are, not the size of your waist or biceps.
That being said, It is perfectly okay to want to become the best version of yourself, but YOUR THINKING MUST CHANGE.

“The me I see is the me I will be”… I want you to adopt this way of thinking TODAY.
Close your eyes and picture your perfect you. See it, touch it, smell it, feel it, embrace it, and love it. Our subconscious mind works in miraculous ways and being able to envision, see, and believe yourself at your best will bring you straight there.
Think like a torpedo. Torpedo’s don’t achieve hitting their target by being shot out of a submarine and swimming straight to it. The target is acquired, torpedo released, then 4,565 mistakes (don’t quote me on that number) and course corrections until it hits the goal. 
Veer to the right? Course correct. Sway to the left? Course correct… You get the idea. Eventually you will fail FORWARD so many times that the target is inevitably hit!

Change your thinking, change your life.
Stay motivated, dedicated, and keep on smiling you beautiful creature you.

From “Fat boy” to “Manorexic”, I have been there and done that. My name is Jay R McDonald and I am the man on a mission to help others find comfort in their own skin. 


Thinking out loud. 

Surroundings. The circumstances of life transform around us, although not always in a favorable manner conducive to our desired lifestyle. 

No day is identical to another, in some way they each hold significant details that give us foresight into what lies ahead. 

Whether we choose to acknowledge those details, is up to us. 



Tay C Fitness Guest Post 

For years I have been inspired by this woman, although she never knew it. Tea is definitely the definition of motivational. Not only is she an Entrepreneur, Lifestyle Coach, Althete, and Published Model, she’s been a major impact on the lives of some people very close to my heart. 

Tea never knew this but I have always followed from afar in awe of just how inspiring she can be so I figured I would try my luck and reach out to her. To my surprise she was more than happy to make a contribution to The Basic Bish. 

Thank you from the bottom of my heart Tea, keep on inspiring! 

Now without further ado, here is Tea’s contribution: 

What inspires you? What motivates you? What drives you?

Questions I ask my clients almost weekly… yet I was a little thrown when Jess approached me (so sweetly) to write about the things that I am motivated by. I had to sit, think, long and hard about this one.

I have been in this industry for over 10 years now, barely- and now fully- engulfed. My day to day routine has become just that, routine. I wake up, pet my dogs, eat my breakfast, drink my coffee and get ready to help women see the beauty they hold. Jeez, that sounded a bit corny. Never in a million years had I imagined that the life of a trainer would give me to opportunity to be so physically, emotionally and intellectually involved in the raw and real lives of others.

When I first began my own fitness journey, I was inspired by fitness models that graced the covers of my favourite magazines, I dreamt of getting to a place physically where I could wear a bikini and feel confident… heck I wanted to be able to wear shorts on a summer day. Fast-forward to 2016 and here I am, my own photo in those coveted fitness magazines. Never would I have imagined this would be possible in a million years… the thing that surprises me the most is that is no longer my motivation.

Abs are cool, having a nice butt is pretty rad but nothing could inspire me to wake up and be better every day than the powerful, hardworking women I am surrounded by thanks to Team Tight n’ Curvy.

The fitness world can be a very lonely place, something I discovered when I entered it years ago. I loved the sport and the challenge it brought but there was always something missing for me. I wanted to share my excitement with others, to talk about what I had learnt, to celebrate PR’s and new successes…the only problem was “regular” people didn’t care about these things to the extent that I did. That’s when the idea hit me! To focus my business on team growth, progress and transformation rather than isolating each client to their own journey. Now don’t get me wrong, everyone is unique and each story is different but the opportunity to share in a team that provides understanding and unconditional support made me feel excited, motivated and alive. Seeing these girls achieve their goals, strive for their dreams and work a little harder each day is more than enough motivation to keep me going. They push each other, genuinely care about their teammates and they DO get excited about PR’s and new ways to cook chicken;)

When I have a bad day, am feeling lazy or just avoiding the gym at all costs, I look to these girls who hustle daily to be better and I can’t help but be inspired, to get off the couch, to work a little harder, sweat a little more. Not only am I motivated physically, I am continuously reminded of the reason I have the career that I do, the reason I work ridiculous hours and don’t take vacations- these bad ass babes that are, Team Tight n’ Curvy!

If I could give a single piece of advice to anyone working towards their dreams whether it be physical, emotional, career or relationship- it would be to find your “why”. Your main driving factor. The one thing that gets you moving on even the worst of days and reminds you to put one foot in front of the other. If your why is strong enough, there is nothing that can get in the way of you and your success.

We are all different, unique in our own way. From the size of our pants, to the shape of our booty’s and our favourite treat meals… however… we all have one thing in common… we put in 110% daily towards living a better life! For me, the girls of Tight n Curvy are my why and that is more than enough reason for me to wake up a little earlier and go to bed a little later to soak up all the potential life offers to make my dreams a reality.

 Xox T

@taycfitness on IG